Adoption is a voluntary exercise of love and desire to care for children or children in need. If traditionally involve biological children proud to continue the family saga, adoptive also carry the pride of giving the opportunity to grow happy young at risk of exclusion.
Gay or lesbian Adopted
Recent calculations estimate that 15% of gay or lesbian couples worldwide have children, biological or adopted. The figure is increasing, and adoption is the second most contested choice between homosexual women, and the first in the case of gay men. It is estimated that in the United States, 4% of children have been adopted by homosexuals.
The controversy between opposing families homoparental focuses on the argument of whether children raised by mothers or gay parents, a couple or alone, have the same cognitive and intellectual development than children of heterosexual couples.
The University of California (USA) instructed its researchers a study on the impact of being educated in homosexual and heterosexual families. The conclusions were that between 82 children, 4 to 8 years old, which were adopted by either straight or gay couples and parents mothers, increasing their intellectual abilities and adaptation were virtually identical. During follow-up of these families, during the first two years following the adoption took place children psychological to estimate their cognitive development and adaptive testing, and is regularly interviewed parents to know the behavior of these children. Both children received by heterosexual and homosexual men and women, increased 10 points their intellectual abilities and behavioral problems stabilized.
The researchers of this study declared the American Journal of Orthopsychiatry: “everything that children need was demonstrated stimulating feel loved”.
It is also true that adopted children from 4 or 5 years, often often need psychological help to adapt to the new home and the new environment, without that this has nothing to do with the sexual orientation of the adoptive parents, but the problems They are dragging its troubled past. This was recently stated in a report from the American Academy of Pediatrics (AAP).
Discriminatory laws for mothers or gay parents
There is no scientific basis for arguing that children can not be well raised by gay or lesbian parents does not prevent legal differences still continue regarding adoptive heterosexual couples. While in most countries and states both members of the heterosexual couple acquire the same rights and duties with the adoption laws are not equal for homosexual couples. In these cases and often, there must be a single adopter and hard to get, if possible, the same responsibilities that are awarded to the couple who adopted.
Although legal same-sex marriage has come to solve this problem in many countries, there are others in which the relevant legislation is zero. Thus, the adoptive couple can not share permits or maternity or paternity leave, have the same rights to custody or charge of enrolling in schools or kindergartens, regardless, their children, among other issues. Not to mention the problems arising to be a separation or divorce of the couple who raised a child together.
Discrimination and social incomprehension towards homosexuality are the main obstacles to normalization, for the children of lesbian mothers or gay parents. The most common is that small are faced with attitudes of contempt for their families, for the first time, to start attending schools. also they face the indifference of teachers and school guardians, to taunts, insults or harassment for sexual orientation of their parents. So it is common for mothers or gay parents seek for their children schools where educational approach based on diversity and respect, or even where the faculty is recognized openly gay is verifiable. It is in secondary education where often create more problems homophobia and lesbifobia among minors.
In such situations, it is important that children have understood from early on that there is nothing reprehensible in the lives of their mothers or fathers, and that is a partial, subjective and unfair attitude discriminate against them by family history. A child confident and confident in their parents, will face situations much better bullying (bullying) or stigmatization. Teach them to stay calm, to go to parents or teachers as they feel harassed and not leave them alone in the conflict, however small it may seem, they are key to their emotional and mental health.